“Perception”

                                                                       Perception

 

The word “Perception” means ability to perceive things. It varies from person to person. It is also a process by which people translate sensory impressions into a coherent and unified view of the world around them. Different people have different perceptions and that is why i said it varies from person to person. Perception also includes how we respond to the information. We can think of perception as a process where we take in sensory information from our environment and use that information in order to interact with our environment. Perception allows us to take the sensory information in and make it into something meaningful.

Let’s take an example: let’s look at our perception of words. Each letter of the alphabet is in itself a singular letter. When we perceive words, we think of them as one singular unit that is made up of smaller parts called letters. It is through this organization of letters into words that we are able to make something meaningful. That is, we perceive an entire word, and this word has a specific meaning that can be found in the dictionary.

Another example: For example, before parents feed their babies micro waved food, they taste it in order to make sure that the temperature isn’t too hot. This involves using sensory information (touch and taste) to make sure that the food is not dangerous for the infant. Before we cross a busy street, we rely on our hearing and sight to make sure a car is not coming. Without the sensory information, we would not be able to judge which food was too hot or when an appropriate time to cross the street would be, which could put us and our children in danger.

Let’s today understand this word “Perception” briefly with some real life stories.

 

Before i will go further little deep into this word perception, i really want to share this small story with you.

A boy and girl  were walking hand in hand, While passing through a house a man who saw them first said “see how shamelessly a couple is walking without caring or respecting the elderly people around” What has happened to our culture. The  boy and girl didn’t bother and walked on and a man who knew them smiled at them. While smiling at the boy and girl the man twitted Ah! Wish my children would live like them. They are the best siblings  i have ever seen. So the story tells us that it is all about what we perceive about others. The first man who saw them  thought they are the shameless couple and the second person who knew them  wished his daughter and son would become like them.

 

 

We always come to the conclusions without knowing the facts, sometimes without doing that work or with appearing for an examination or  an interview . we say that we can’t pass this exam or can’t clear this interview but when we hear from anyone that interview was easy or exams were too easy we regret our decisions.

I did an activity on perception with my trainees. I gave them white sheets and asked them to close their eyes. They had to listen and not to repeat anything. I told them several times to fold the white sheet  and cut it in  the middle and corner. When the trainees were asked to open their eyes and slowly open the folded sheet in their hands they were surprised to see none of the sheet was matching. Here is what i described to them as why this happened.

This is called your mental ability to perceive things. When i said fold the paper, everyone of them had different perceptions in their mind and some of them folded the paper in half some of them full, few folded the one corner of paper.  In the same way when i said cut the paper, few of the trainees cut in middle, corner or their right or left hand side. So this tells us how they responded to the signals of their nervous system.

Apart from the Amodal, Color, speech,harmonic and rhythmic perception(Which is not important to discuss at this point of time) there is an important perception type that is called Depth Perception. Depth perception acts as one of the types of perception psychology. It relates to the way the human eye identifies and contextualizes things in space. For instance, This is the perception which makes us imagine/think about others. For example

A guy who was very happy going to a dance club one day with his friends suddenly sat  in a corner and didn’t join his friends at the dance floor. Different people had different perceptions coming in their minds. Few of them said, He is always boring, Someone said, He is of no youth now. Few perceived that he is not feeling comfortable with the girls around but the fact was only known to the guy sitting in a corner and smoking. He may had a rough day, a harsh conversation over phone, missing someone, or he might have promised someone not to do clubbing anymore? The people around him were thinking as per their Depth Perception. So again, the above story teaches us a very important lesson as not to be judgmental without knowing facts around!

 

This is going too long, isn’t it?  I know. Alright let me cut short this write up with a Beautiful another real life Story.

 

A man was taking his morning walk at the beach, He saw that along with the morning tide came hundreds of starfish and due to morning sun rays, they would die. The tide was fresh and the starfish were alive.  The man took few steps, picked one and threw it into the water. He did that repeatedly. Right behind him there was another person who couldn’t understand what this man was doing. He said” “There are hundreds of starfish. How many can you help? What difference does it make?”

This man did not reply. Took few more steps, picked up another one, threw it into the water, and said,” it makes a difference to this one.

Special thanks to my Master Trainer, and others to help writing this article.

(Muzamil  Maqbool is a life-skills specialist and  has worked with many international organizations globally)

 

 

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Viva! Kashmir

                                                     Viva Kashmir

Brief History

Kashmir has been victimized always. From Buddhists rulers to Hindu kings to the current government, Kashmir has only seen bloodsheds. One can easily turn the pages of history back and see how Kashmiris have suffered by the hands of Buddhists and Hindu rulers. Changes only came when shah Hamadan R.A came to visit the Kashmir 2nd time and saw many people who had accepted Islam through him and Bul-Bul Shah R.A are going back to their religion in the evening. Those days Buddhists preachers used to sit under a tree (Mainly chinar) to preach Buddhism every evening. When shahi-Hamdan asked people for the reason, people replied that we have become Muslims but our stomach is still a Buddhist. This was happening because they (Kashmiri people) used to work all day in the Buddhist lands to earn their livelihood and for that their owner used to threat them if they turn to Islam their lands will be grabbed back and they will no longer have anything to eat. This was  also the time entire world was into arts and crafts revolution and its head quarter was in  middle east. People all over the world were quite interested into wood carving, pashmina, carpet, rugs, silk and other handmade items. SHAH hamdan  first purchased all the land from Buddhist ruler starting from Srinagar to tral, baramulla, ladakh and so on. He then introduced various skills in arts and crafts where in people would feel independent and do a free trade. He also made exhibitions and trade fair so that Kashmir would come into world map of arts and crafts. This was the thinking of a shah who never wanted to rule the people, who never wanted to grab their lands and resources but he had always boosted the economy of Kashmir.  This created peace, brotherhood and then livelihood became an easiest way for everyone. Time changed and Kashmir moved on. I really don’t want to go into non significant history of how sheikh Abdullah had accession with India, how article 370 was included into Indian constitution in the year 1950 and how sheikh Abdullah became Chief Minister from the portfolio of Kashmir’s prime minister and slowly accepted j&k as an integral part of india. So history tells us not everyone satisfies his greed but few of them sacrifice their needs as shah hamdan R.A did. He spent billions for Kashmiris  but never threatened or forced anyone to accept Islam. According to records, SHAH Hamadan R.a converted 5, 00000 Buddhists and Hindus to  Muslims and not a single drop of blood was spilled over it. Though he had many serious religious discussions with the then Shia Ruler Yusuf Shah Chek who oncefailed to compete and then requested Government  of Iran to send his best ullamas  for a debate with SHAH-Hamadan R.A and 700 Aalims(Islamic preachers) with came with the shah-hamdan R.A

Tehreek

From the last 25 years Kashmir has witnessed unrest which is commonly known as (Tehreek) This agitation rose up in the year 1990 or before but we have many cases before 1990’s where in groups of many people have crossed over border to Pakistan to get trained by them.

Let us throw some light on this kashmir conflict between india and pakistan

The Kashmir conflict is a territorial conflict between india and pakistan which started just after partition in india. India and Pakistan have fought three wars over Kashmir, including the indo pakistan wars of 1947, 1965 and 1999. Furthermore, since 1984 the two countries have also been involved in several skirmishes  over control of siachen Glacier. India claims the entire state of j&k and as of 2010, administers approximately 43% of the region, including most of jammu, the kashmir valley, ladakh and the saichen galicier . India’s claims are contested by Pakistan, which administers approximately 37% of Kashmir, namely azad kashmir and the northern areas of Gilgit Baltistan.

The root of conflict between the Kashmiri insurgents and the Indian Government is tied to a dispute over local autonomy. Democratic development was limited in Kashmir until the late 1970s and by 1988 many of the democratic reforms provided by the Indian Government had been reversed. Non-violent channels for expressing discontent were thereafter limited and caused a dramatic increase in support for insurgents advocating violent secession from India. In 1987, a disputed state election created a catalyst for the insurgency when it resulted in some of the state’s legislative assembly members forming armed insurgent groups. In July 1988 a series of demonstrations, strikes and attacks on the Indian Government began the Kashmir Insurgency.

This Tehreek had many phases where in various militant outfits had internal conflict over freedom or accession with Pakistan. Kashmir witnessed losing more than one lac people mainly youth since 90’s and many thousands were involuntarily  disappeared. One must also not forget that we had draconian laws like POTA, TADA and AFSPA(which still exists with the combo offer of PSA).  By the  year 2000 people of Kashmir had seen many killings, fake encounters and outrage of security forces which mainly included the atrocities of special task force which was common know as NAABID RAAJ. However things happened to change slowly and in many parts of Srinagar crackdowns and night raids were downsized. People were sick and tired and they felt betrayed as the main goal to achieve the  aazidi(Freedom) was not  being achieved.

By the time passes people of Kashmir changed a lot in terms of development , education and awareness. Youth chose to study in different parts of India and outside the country as well. In the year 2008 and 2010 Kashmir witnessed unrest where in we lost more than 112 youth unarmed killed by security forces. The protests occurred in a movement launched by Hurriyat confrence led by Syed Geelani and Mirwaiz Umar Farooq in the Indian state of j&k in June 2010, who called for the complete demilitarization of Jammu and Kashmir. The APHC made this call to a strike, citing human rights abuses by security forces. Rioters shouting pro-independence slogans, defied curfew, attacked roit police with stones and burnt vehicles and buildings. The protests started out as anti India protests but later were also targeted against the US  following the 2010 quran burning controversy. The riot police consisting of Jammu and Kashmir Police and Indian Para-military forces fired teargas shells rubber bullets and also live ammunition on the protesters, resulting in 112 deaths, including many teenagers and an 11-year-old boy. On June 11, there were protests against these killings in the downtown area of Srinagar. Police used massive force to disperse the protesting youth during which a teargas bullet killed a seventeen-year-old Tufail Ahmad Mattoo who was playing cricket in Gani memorial Stadium. Several protest marches were organized across the Valley in response to the killings which turned violent. Thereafter a vicious circle was set, killing of a boy was followed by protest demonstrations and clashes with police and CRPF in which another boy was killed which led to another protest by the boys till several youth lost their lives. Official figures reveal around 110 people have lost their lives and 537 civilians were injured during stone-pelting incidents from May to September 21, 2010. Around 1,274 CRPF men and 2,747 police personnel were injured during the same period across the valley.

Indian intelligence agencies claimed that these protests and demonstrations were part of covert operations of Pakistani intelligence agencies and were sponsored and supported from them. Media reports earlier in march had suggested that with the support of its intelligence agencies Pakistan has been once again ‘boosting’ Kashmir militants and recruitment of ‘martyrs’ in Pakistani state of punjab. It was reported that in a meeting held in muzaffarabad in mid January 2010 which was chaired by former ISI chief hamid gul ,UJC called for reinvigorated JIHAD until Kashmir was free of “Indian occupation”. In May 2010 increased activities of militants was reported from across the border in neelam valley in Pakistani-administered Gilgit-Baltistan. The locals reported that large numbers of militants had set up camps in the area with plans of crossing into the Kashmir valley, and they did not appear to be Kashmiri.

The mob pelted stones and bricks at the riot police and in response the security forces used tear gas, rubber bullets and in some cases live ammunition resulting in death of some of the unarmed protestors. The protesters were accused by the government of using stone pelting as a violent mean of creating chaos. The violent stone pelting by the mob resulted in several security personnel being injured.

To prevent the riots Indian authorities imposed curfew in Srinagar and other towns in the valley. In August, the government responded by imposing curfews in the disturbed areas and by deploying Rapid Action Force (RAF) in the Srinagar valley to control demonstrations. Protesters, however, defied curfew and also pelted stones on the police and paramilitary personnel. The year 2010 opened the Pandora’s box for the Indian government which responded to the chaos by using live ammunition which resulted in death of more than hundred protestors.

Current Affairs

Ever since Modi was sworn in as Prime Minister of India on 26 May 2014 at the Rashtrapati Bhavan, Muslims of India are not feeling secure. I mean i still remember talking to a Muslim friend of mine who said we have not forgotten Gujarat riots where in goons were given free pass to kill any Muslim they see by their then CM of Gujarat. How can i vote for this man? But party was backed by RSS and they got through in lok sabha elections with 282 and 336 seats with NDA. Mr. Prime Minister however delivered many speeches spreading brotherhood among every religion in india.

Before elections people of Kashmir were fed up of trusting National conference and they casted their vote for PDP but Jammu was sweeped  by bjp with 25 seats win.

 

Pdp took a last minute decision to alliance with BJP with a common minimum programme. If we look on the common grounds no one was happy for this alliance but these floods hit people who had lost everything in the floods last year had nothing but to hope for the best.  Bjp promised a grand development package of 70,000 crore for jk but nothing came from central government till now.

People slowly are losing faith in PDP/Bjp government and they are for sure cursing Mufti for showing people unachievable dreams. To combat the unemployment in the state where thousands are holding masters degrees and PhD’s has become a biggest challenge for the government. The government however opened vacancies in many departments but few 100 posts cannot feed thousands of unemployed youth. The biggest employer of our state jk bank who has opened few post had 12 lac forms to sort out. For the class 4th posts in General Administration Department, they received over 4, 75000 applications and the story continues. One can understand the unemployment rate in the state. An empty mind is devil’s workshop. When these thousands of youth sits idle and do nothing that is the time when they get involved into unlawful activities.

 

 

Kashmir in 2015

 

The year 2015 has witnessed many up’s and down’s in the valley. We have seen upsurge of a student turning militant commander of Hibz Burhan wani and many other hundred’s joining him. This young boy from tral area of Kashmir remained in the news all over. We have seen mobile tower attacks which was claimed by a never heard militant organization lashkar-e-islami. The outfit hurled grenades on towers and some of the tower owners were killed and mobile outlets in north, south and central Kashmir were ambushed, creating a panic all over the valley. To be quite honest with you there were rumours among people of Kashmir that these attacks have been carried out by Indian agencies. Meanwhile Hibz an active militant outfit also backed these palpable rumours saying that these attacks have been carried out by Indian agencies.

Later on we saw India and Pakistan trading fires across international border which killed many innocent people from Pakistan and Indian side as well. After a PIL was filed by assistant advocate general of jk to implement beef ban, people of Kashmir became outrageous and went on streets to protest and scarified  many bovine animals on the roads to show their anger towards bjp/Pdp government which runs on RSS agenda in the state.

Now days mysterious killings are taking place. We recently saw bullet ridden bodies in an orchid at Pattan where in three young boys from Sopore and Pattan were killed. Yesterday an ex militant and his 3 year old son Burhan Basher  was killed and today a Hibz  militant was also killed and goverment termed it as mysterious killings but for people of Kashmir on ground, nothing is mysterious. On other hand we have witnessed strikes which takes us back and weakens our economy but do we have any other choice? Fact is the government in central is backed by radicals who say that those who want to eat meat/beef should go Pakistan. Those who want to pray and practice Islam should go to Pakistan. Those who want to keep more than 2 children among Muslims and Hindus on the other hand can keep as much as they want should also go to Pakistan, and many other things where unnecessarily Pakistan has been hyped by Indian ministers of BJP and members of parliament. These small small things create a big gap in between people and government and it later gets very hard to bridge these gaps. If Kashmir is an integral part of india then india must stop calling us terrorists. If they see Kashmir’s as part of this country then they should give us constitutional rights. I mean proper implementation of constitutional rights. Peace must come from both sides. If Government of India wants to see the prevailing peace then they must stop revoking the article 370 which hurts the sentiments of people. Bjp must involve leaders from Kashmir and Pakistan to resolve Kashmir. Let us bring end to violence, Let us sit down and discuss this fragile issue of Kashmir. If BJP and India wants to see Kashmir as their integral part then they must stop this negative attitude towards people of this valley. They should stop dividing people of Jammu and Kashmir on the basis of IIT’S and Aiims, and they must stop this loathing and talk peace. Killings and Peace cannot go hand in hand.

I request both the nations to resolve Kashmir peacefully. No one till now has got victory in any war.

 

 

Viva Peace

Viva Humanity

(I tried to find God, I found myself. When i found myself, I find God) Rumi~

Special thanks to Sir Arshid Sahib.

Understanding Forgiveness and Unity in Islam.

 

Understanding forgiveness and unity in Islam

Origin

The origin of Islam is generally accredited to the prophet Muhammad (Peace Be upon Him) but to the sincere Muslim, Islam originated long before Muhammad (Peace Be upon Him) ever walked the earth. Islam originated from Adam (Peace Be upon Him) the first man on earth who was a Prophet. Belief in Prophethood is one of the basic fundamentals of Faith. Every Muslim must believe that Allah sent His Messengers, from time to time, with glad tiding of His reward for good deed and warnings of His punishment. Down through the ages, before Mohammad (PBUH) came Allah sent Prophets at different times. Prophets have come to all lands. To every nation Allah sent a Messenger. It is believed by Muslims that every prophet who came before Muhammad (peace be upon him) practiced and preached the religion of Islam. Like, Adam, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Ismael, Younus, David, Jesus, Moses etc (Peace be upon them all).  Mohammed (PBUH) was the Last Prophet. He was sent as a Messenger to whole mankind, to all men, until the end of this world.

An-Nahl:16:36

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And we certainly sent into every nation a messenger, [saying], “Worship Allah and avoid Taghut.” And among them were those whom Allah guided, and among them were those upon whom error was [deservedly] decreed. So proceed through the earth and observe how was the end of the deniers

Islam is around 1400 year’s old religion and Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) began preaching Islam around 610 AD, Making it one of the world’s younger religions. Islam was developed in the Middle East in the 7th century C.E. Quran has mentioned many times about forgiveness and brotherhood among each other. Let us all understand these two words Forgiveness and Unity and its importance. To save myself not to get encountered by so many questions, i will give references only from Holy Quran. Prophet Muhammad Pbuh said we should live in harmony with each other and forgive others for their mistakes. Allah says i will pardon all your sin the moment you come back to me and seek forgiveness. So we have Almighty saying in Holy Quran and our Beloved prophet Muhammad pbuh about forgiveness and unity. To quote references from other Islamic books we may get into deep discussions as we witness different sects in Islam which may or may not agree with books other than Holy Quran.

 

 

Prophet Muhammad (S) was the last messenger of Allah. History shows that he was known to be truthful and trustworthy even before he received the divine inspiration and became the Messenger of Allah. His actions, decisions, relaying the Divine Revelation, method of inviting people to the straight path and implementing injunctions received from Allah, the Most Wise, are evidence of his absolute honesty, piety and spirituality.

Forgiveness in Islam and its Importance

The Ummah is like a building with the Muslims as its bricks, brotherhood is the cement. Without forgiveness you cannot have brotherhood.

Do you hate someone? Do you really hate someone? You haven’t spoken to him for a while? You’ve been blaming him? You’re not the only one, the Muslim Ummah today is diseased with this to the extent that almost every Muslim knows another Muslim who he hates.

Ok then, he wronged you. He deceived you. He has backbitten you. He lied to you. But even in these extreme situations the Qur’an and the Hadith teach us that we have to forgive others (especially those who hurt us the most) if we wish to earn the forgiveness of Allah on the day of judgement. We have all committed many sins, made many mistakes and no doubt we have wronged others, we have deceived others, we have backbitten others and no doubt we have lied to others.

So what makes us focus onto brothers and sisters errors while we remain unconscious of our own? Not to forgive is like to live in arrogance, and ignorance of our own shortcomings. Forgiveness is linked with piety and God-consciousness, is there anybody who is not without sin? Is there anybody who can be arrogant enough to say that he does not need to forgive? Do we not know that Allah forgives those who forgive others? Therefore, we should realise the difficulties of others and forgive them. Allah says in the Qur’an:

”Be quick in the forgiveness from your Lord, and pardon (all) men – for Allah loves those who do good.” [Surah al-Imran; 3:133-134]

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“And hasten to forgiveness from your Lord and a garden as wide as the heavens and earth, prepared for the righteous”

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“Who spend [in the cause of Allah ] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people – and Allah loves the doers of good”

And we know that Allah Himself is Ar-Rahmaan (the Most Compassionate) and Ar-Raheem (the Most Merciful) and that His Mercy is infinite, and that no matter the sin (except shirk) Allah is always willing to answer the person’s call for forgiveness. In fact Allah loves the tear drop that falls from the eye of one who sincerely seeks the forgiveness of his Lord.

And Allah loves us to have hearts that are ready to forgive.

The Prophet (Pbuh) once asked his companions;

“Do you know what will cause you to have high walled palaces in Paradise (as a symbol of great reward) and will cause you to be raised by God?” When they replied in the negative, he said, ”To be forgiving and to control yourself in the face of provocation, to give justice to the person who was unfair and unjust to you, to give to someone even though he did not give to you when you were in need and to keep connection with someone who may not have reciprocated your concern.”

Similarly the Prophet (Pbuh) said that the best of people are those who are slow to get angry and quick to forgive. On the other hand the worst of people are those, he said who get angry quickly but are slow to forgive.

The characteristic that makes a person  most likely to forgive is the purity of his or her heart. Apologies must be accepted, the Prophet (Pbuh) said that.

”Whoever apologises to his brother and that apology is not accepted, then the person who refuses to accept the apology bears the sin of one who takes the property of another unjustly.

If we look at the example and the character of the Prophet (Pbuh) we can see that he was always forgiving and never showed enmity to anyone except those who waged war against him. There was an old lady who used to throw rubbish in his way every day, on one occasion she did not throw rubbish in the street, so he decided to go and see what was the matter. She was ill in bed, to her amazement, the Messenger of Allah (Pbuh) came to see her and find out about her. She accepted Islam.

This is the example of the man whom we claim to follow. Thumamah, as the chief of his tribe had killed many Muslims. On his travels, he was caught by the Muslim soldiers and was taken to the Prophet’s masjid and tied to one of the pillars. The Messenger of Allah (Pbuh) commanded his companions to untie him and give him the best food. The Messenger of God (Pbuh) was indeed a mercy for the worlds.

We should similarly be merciful with each other. First of all, we ourselves should not do anything to upset our brothers and sisters (because this is in itself a part of mercy) and then we should forgive those who have upset us or made us angry. We will never be a strong ummah  if we are not able to forgive.

Some might say that to forgive is a sign of weakness and humiliation, and for them it is better to be strong and preserve their honour. But honour in the eyes of Allah lies in forgiveness.

”But indeed if any shows patience and forgives that would truly be an exercise of courageous will and resolution in the conduct of affairs.” [surah ash-shuraa42:43]

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“And whoever is patient and forgives – indeed, that is of the matters [requiring] determination.”

If we are to be really strong then we have to be strong against Shaytaan and forgive our brothers and sisters, and in this way may be Allah will decide Insha Allah to forgive ourselves for our many mistakes.

As Muslims, our belief in Islam is not complete until we obey Allah and His Prophet (s). Allah commands us to do so in the same verse in the Quran:

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“And obey Allah and the messenger (Muhammad (Pbuh) (Quran, Surah Al-Maeda:92)

Allah also told us about the excellence of the prophet’s (s) character in the following verse:

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“And Verily. for you (Muhammad (S)) are on an exalted (standard of) character” (Quran, Surah Al-Qalam:4).

Prophet Muhammad pbuh always used to forgive others. He was sent to us and to the entire universe/mankind as Mercy.

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We have only sent you as a mercy to the worlds (Surah Al-Anbiya, Verse 107)

We often hear that our mothers are too humble and kind to us and they forgive all our faults and mistakes. Whatever the child does whether he/she is right or wrong but the mother in almost all cases tries to forgive him/her. But have you ever thought that Allah Almighty is most forgiving and many many more times kind to us(seventy times more than a mother). Allah always  forgive  the faithful person who does sins but quickly repents and seeks forgiveness from Allah the merciful of all the most beneficent the forgiver. Below is a list of few selected verses from the Holy Quran about forgiveness.(Hood 11:52)

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Whether you (mankind) disclose (by good words of thanks) a good deed (done to you in the form of a favour by someone), or conceal it, or pardon an evil,verily, Allah is Ever Oft-Pardoning, All-Powerful. Al-Nisa4:14987

Unity Or Brotherhood in Islam

There is a popular modern saying: United we stand, divided we fall. This small phrase conveys a big message; the message of unity. Unity is very important in any society, any group and any organization Hajj in the lunar month of Dhul Hijjah is one of the greatest examples of unity being commanded by Islam.

Lack of unity among Muslims is one of the biggest issues that needs to be resolved by Muslim society. If a Muslim society is considered to be a body, then its unity is its health. And the reasons which do not let the unity stay firm are like the different diseases which attack the body and affect its health. There are lot of such diseases spreading at a rapid pace and if not treated at an appropriate stage, may prove to be fatal for the body (i.e. Muslim society). Almighty Allah has always given us messages through Holy Quran, not to get divided and fall weak. In today’s world Muslims all over the world have been divided in groups/sects and maslaq’s and practice Islam in their own ways. That is the irony why Islam and Muslims are not able to understand properly by others. Islam means peace, love, brotherhood among us and other religions and not hatred, revenge and disrupting peace.

in order to achieve the goals of that particular entity. And Islam stands atop when it comes to unity. Islam commands unity among its followers. Praying in congregation (and Friday prayers, Eid prayers etc.) is an example of advocacy of unity. Gathering of millions of Muslims every year in Makkah for performing

How unity and Brotherhood was started by Prophet Muhammad PBUH

.(Prophet in Makkah and Madinah)

About six months after the Muslims of Makkah had left their homes, livelihoods, and, in many cases, their families, for the sake of Allah and immigrated to Madinah, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) established a system that would bring together Muslims of two different cities and different tribes.

The Muslims who had left Makah were called Muhajirun, immigrants to Madinah; they had left their homes for the sake of Allah. They were now homeless and more or less penniless in Madinah. They needed help.

Enter the Muslims of Madinah. They became the Ansars (helpers) of their Muhajirun brothers and sisters in faith.

 

Thus Islam teaches us how to show unity among people you live in. How to quickly forgive others.  I may conclude by giving an example.


“They Were Not Just “Roommates”

Bringing Muslims together (Mu’akhah), coming from the same root as akh “brother” in Arabic, means a system of making people brothers. The Prophet paired one Muhajir with one Ansar. They were not just temporary roommates. They became brothers in the truest sense. Not only did the Ansar Muslim provide the Muhajir Muslim with food, shelter, and clothing. He offered him consolation, support, and true Muslim fellowship.

Although there were no set rules, every one of the Ansar who got a Muhajir as his brother gave an equal share in his property and belongings to his Muhajir brother.

In the bad old days of Arab tribal enmity and prejudices, the mu’akhah system was truly revolutionary. It gave the Muhajirun a chance to rebuild their lives in their new home, while creating a deep bond of love and affection between Muslims of two very different cities.

The regional differences between people, languages, and culture, despite smaller distances as compared to today, were great.

So it was perhaps strange for people at the time to think of an Arab and a non-Arab living together as brothers.

For instance, Bilal ibn Rabah, an African Muhajir and an ex-slave, was paired as a brother with Abu Rawahah `Abdullah ibn `Abdul Rahman. And they were brothers, not mere roommates. A black man and an Arab. Who could have imagined this state of affairs in the pre-Islamic tribal Arabia?

                                  “They Even Used to Inherit from Each Other”

This brotherhood was even more important than the blood relationship, since it was based on faith, not genetics or blood.

This existed to such a degree that initially, the Muslim brothers in mu’akhah would inherit from each other. However, later on, this practice was abrogated.

The mu’akhah system is clearly an example of Islam’s solid commitment to the establishment of a brotherhood based not on colour, language, race, or ethnicity, but purely on faith. Muslims today need to remember this system and our community leadership should be proactive to implement the Islamic ideals.

References from the Holy Quran about Unity Brotherhood

Surah: Al-anfal :8:46

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And obey Allah and His Messenger, and do not dispute and [thus] lose courage and [then] your strength would depart; and be patient. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.

Surah:Al- an’ am:6:159

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Indeed, those who have divided their religion and become sects – you, [O Muhammad], are not [associated] with them in anything. Their affair is only [left] to Allah ; then He will inform them about what they used to do.

Surah:Al-hujarat 49:13

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O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.
Real Life Issue

A boy was asked to fill two bags of stones and put them on his back to the 5th floor. The boy who was standing at the ground floor of that building found it easy to reach 1st floor but by reaching the 3rd floor his energy was drained out. He somehow managed to reach the fifth floor and asked his master that i have completed the task. His master replied now continue the same thing twice with two full bags of stones weighing more than 20 kg’s each. The boy tried to do the same but very soon he surrendered and confessed his master in a deadful voice that he cannot do it anymore. The master replied, why? The boy Replied, My body is no longer supporting me anymore. The master replied, this is the situation of your heart soul and mind when you don’t forgive anyone. Your heart mind and soul carries the same burden. So this real life story tells us that we should always learn to forgive others and live in unity and peacefully.

 

Special Thanks to Shahid Nabi (Working as an analyst in Al-Madinah Al Munawarah)

Thanks to my Team for special efforts towards this piece.

 

(Muzamil Maqbool is a life skills specialist and has worked with many national and international organizations)

It is all about your positive Attitude!

                                                         It is all about Positive attitude.

In our day to day life we see failures and successes. Successes make us move forward while failures stuck some of us in a bad shape. A shape that captures our mind in a dilemma that a person thinks he is  done with the rest of his life or some people think they are not worth anymore. These failures often hold us  back to do anything else or anything new in our life. Every time we start doing new things the past failures come in between and hold us far back into the darkness of feeling unworthy and useless. Today let us all learn a new lesson. Life is not about what we have or what we can make. It is all about attitude. Attitude that makes and breaks us. Let us first understand what is attitude? Hold on your horses! I am sure you have thousands of different examples and perceptions about this word “Attitude”

Attitude is 100%. The Right attitude is what brings about success.

Attitude is a tendency to respond positively or negatively towards certain idea, object, person, or a situation. Attitude influences an individual’s choice of action and responses to challenges.

I may start with a story to share:

There was a man who made a living by selling ballons at a fair. He had ballons of all colours including red,blue,gree,yellow and pink. Whenever the business was slow,he would release a helium-filled ballon into the air and when the children saw it go up, they all wanted to buy one. They would come up to him, buy a ballon and his sales would go up again. He continued this process all day. One day, He felt someone tugging at his jacket. He turned around and saw a little boy who asked, If you reslease a black ballon, would that also fly?

Moved by the boy’s concern, the man replied with empathy, son, it is not the colour of ballon, it is what is inside that makes it go up”.

So the story above  tells us it is not the colour of a person, it is not his caste or tribe he belongs to, it is not the qualification he has or the car he drives or the house he has to live in but it is the right positive attitude that makes him a human being and a successful person.

Let us further decide what positive and negative attitude is.

Positive Attitude: It simply means you have power to overcome every problem you face in your life. With the positive attitude you can see a brighter side of your life. This attitude brings you success and makes your life a lot easier. This attitude develops your state of mind to become an optimistic (Positive thinker).

Benefits of positive attitude

1: Expecting success not failures.

2: Making you feel inspired.

3: It gives you an ultimate strength not to give up, if you encounter obstacles on your way.

4: It makes you look at failure and problems as blessings in disguise.

5: Believing in yourself and in your abilities.

6: Enables you to show self-esteem and confidence.

7: You look for solutions, instead of dwelling on problems.

8: it opens you to recognize opportunities.

How to improve your positive attitude:

1: Manage Rejection: setbacks often give you an opportunity to turn a rebuff into a win.

2: Accept everything in a positive manner: Always thank Almighty. Say (Alhamdulillah)

3: Associate yourself with more positive people:  Negative people pull others down. If you want to stay positive, stay away from them.

4: Compliment at least one person every day. This will make you feel good and will lift up your spirit.

5: Be enthusiastic: It draws others like magnet. You might not feel enthusiastic every time but you can do. Force it. When you act enthusiastic. You will be one.

Negative Attitude

Negative Attitude:  According to nick vijucic (A motivational speaker) negativity ruins your life silently.

 A negative attitude is the viewpoint that you don’t want to do what people want you to do, or you hate what you’re supposed to do, or you don’t want to cooperate with other people. 

It is basically related to negativity of your thoughts that let you do nothing and all you do is hate, let people down after certain things and say no to things without even knowing them properly. Negative thoughts are caused by ingrained patterns related to our own beliefs, about self-esteem, security, money, people, life, and everything else.

Problems associated with negative attitude:

1: Negative attitude shortens your life: The more often you become angry, upset or frustrated, the less days you will have left to live. I know this is extreme, but that’s how it is. You are shortening your life every time you let negative emotions overtake you.

2: Unpleasant future: Your actions determine your future. If you constantly moan and are dissatisfied with your circumstances, in the future you are sure to meet with more of the things you are unhappy about. The more you complain the more things you will find to complain about.

3: It harm others: Your negative mood affects people around you. You should never make others feel bad because by doing so you are contributing not only to your own misery, but to the unhappiness of others also.

4:  It produces negative effects: Every Cause has an effect and so your negative attitude (cause) produces negative circumstances. Mostly people think it’s the other way round, but that’s not the case. Your thinking causes your circumstances.

How to change your negative Attitude: The best way to change your negative attitude is by understanding the outcome of negativity.

1: Try to find out what causes your negative attitude: It may be your past or you may be living with a person who has negativity.

2: Change the way you look at the situation: If you have an extra work. Rather than complaining and wishing not to have the overload on your head. Take this extra work as a challenge and do it.

3: Do something to change your negative attitude: Whenever a challenge is thrown at you. Accept it in a positive way. This helps you to kick out your negativeness and invite positivity.

4: Do a lot of exercise, offer salah, meditate. This rejunivates your body and brain and cools you down. The more cooler you are the better thinker you will become.

5: Try not to be a couch potato, Get up and change yourself.

6: Read Success Stories that have inspired the World. Few Examples, Steve Jobs, nick vijucic, Gates and others.  Their videos and books are easily available on online.

7: You can stick posters on walls (which carry inspirational and positive messages)in and around the house. You can make them in fact, try writing,  I am an optimistic(Positive  Thinker).Lets us all spread peace and love. Try writing Quotes of your favourite Poet, or anyone else that you see as an inspiration. These things increase your positive mind capacity. You actually feel good!

8: Repeat these words the moment you wake up in the morning.

(Everyday in Every way i am feeling better and Better.)

 

(Muzamil Maqbool is working as a life-Skills specialist with an international organization. He also works on peace buildings operations at various.)

Don’t tell me it is “Alright”

Huthbura is a place famous for its greenery, mountains, gardens, lakes and waterfalls. This place falls in the outskirts of district ganderbal.  J.P my good friend is one among the residents of this district. Though people of this suburb have an antiquity of changing their Political dogmas and sail as the waves guide them. There lives a diamond, a noble, unselfish soul and all together an awesome human being Mr. J.P who completed his bachelor’s degree in hotel management from Pioneer Institute of hotel management Kashmir  in the year 2011 and soon after completing his degree he got a job as a an executive for a leading organization of India  in an another district which was 75 miles away from his home town. During his selection in the project J.P agreed to work in the district of pulwama and had no option other than staying there in a rented condo. J.P has always been an apple to everyone’s eye. He always lived his life gaily and had always stayed away from things that made him joyless and cheerless. As the time passed he became more amicable with this new place and started hankering it. J.P never fancy in love at all and he always thought love is for those forlorn people who always wanted to lavish their life but he was not at all aware that he could soon fall in love with a local girl there. Mesmeirzed and magnetized by her looks and astounded by her beautiful eyes J.P soon fell in love with this girl he used to see at the bus stop every day. This was love at the first sight. Though he didn’t know truly as yet what love is? That was the luckiest day in his life when he first noticed the crimson on her cheeks and coyness in her looks. Since that day she also used to keep waiting for J.P at least out of curiosity. She was from a nearby village called nilegaam. J.P soon bought a car so that he could easily steer his girlfriend ZUV  from her workplace to home. But all was not well. Who knew this innocent girl would cheat on J.P soon. J.P had introduced a childhood friend (Khan) name-held to his girlfriend who soon invited them to a get together party and started getting close to j.P’s girlfriend. J.P a plain sailing guy was very sloppy in nature didn’t mind this at all but who could have imagined that zuv would soon dump him for some paltry reasons which were unsettled in nature and  she went  on with khan. khan who instead of supporting his childhood friend (J.P) took this as an opportunity and went on. J.P couldn’t bear these things at all and very soon he resigned from the job.  The question remained in everyone’s mind.

                            Where did this broken and shattered heart go?

Well, the answer is J.P soon left his country India and found a job in CANADA. Currently he works with highly reputed  IT Firm as consultant. One day he received a call from an unknown number and it was zuv, J.P who kept the conversation very short zuv at the end of the call said, “It is Alright” and put the phone down. Shocked by his tale, here is the poem dedicated to my friend J.P alias (AKE-NANDUN)

Don’t tell me it is alright, you don’t know what i feel tonight.

I have cried my heart out, Faked another blackout.

Still sorry for every breath i take, can’t believe that is my fate.

Criminal that i am, don’t put roses on my grave.

Sorry (zuv) i couldn’t write you a song, because i feel so alone every time you are gone.

I am wasted away with the ashes in the burning rain, all the cigarettes cried out loud but all in vain.

                                 I have never felt so much pain

It is more that i can bear. Kill me if you love me.

That will be all the mercy you can share, I really gave it all up and no light ever showed up.

I really miss you and the life around me. It is still dark around me while i am in the spot light.

 

 

 

 

Here We are We Stand Apart!

Battered and Bruised My Scars Ain’t Gonna Last. It is only Hoping from the love  that i lost.

           Disaster Takes it toll, Asks me to sing this ballad in “Rock n Roll”.

It is gonna be easy for me, Making her cry for what she ever loved me.

I was deluged in an illusion, Mean while she came to the conclusion, That she didn’t need me anymore. 

      Hey! I am not wounded or scarred but inside i am ugly and Marred.

I laugh at me in the mirror, First time i did call myself a Loser. I am not a prince so charming, Neither I am a handsome Fella! 

She saw something in me when she started loving and she said forever we will be together.

                                            Here V-r-V stand apart,

I need to be a better man, I take a new start.

I cry Honestly, Silently, Inside me and fate laughs at me. I am on my knees, I Beg and Plead.

                                                           “But All in Vain”

PS: This Poem is dedicated to my best friend Asif Iqbal Shah Aka Bean soeb.

Asif Iqbal hails from district baramulla who miserably failed in his “Mission One sided True Love”